Do you know what questions to ask your pediatrician when your momma instincts are being ignored?
Hello, dear readers! I am on my soap box once again! This time it’s about
Advocating for your babies!
New moms and preemie parents have something in common…we worry a lot!! Way more than any childless person can even imagine! Am I right, people? But I’m here to tell you that the worrying doesn’t go away with the second or full-term baby. It’s in our genetics and our mommy hormones to worry…it’s our job!!
And there’s nothing more defeating and disheartening than to be blown off by your pediatrician. Do any of these sound familiar?
“Don’t worry, it’s just a preemie thing.”
“Just go home and get a good night’s sleep.”
I had a mom in the clinic who’s pediatrician told her to “take a chill pill” when her 3-month old baby was refusing to eat!
Seriously? I totally understand why some parents these days go to the internet for answers!
(I caution you, however. You should always trust YOUR pediatrician or health care team first and foremost. They are the only ones who know your baby and her individual needs! And now is a good time to read my medical disclaimer.)
So rather than risking your child's life by trusting a mom on the internet because it “worked for her baby,” advocate for your babies and make a list of questions to ask your pediatrician! Click To Tweet
So rather than risking your child’s life by trusting a mom on the internet because it “worked for her baby,” advocate for your babies and make a list of questions to ask your pediatrician!
Tell him/her WHAT you are seeing that concerns you and WHY you are so concerned.
Give them as much information as you can about the signs and symptoms you are seeing at home. A lot of docs will judge your baby’s health just by looking at their skin tone and chubby cheeks in addition to a “normal” physical exam (ear, nose, throat, heart, lungs, abdomen, etc.)
I personally believe that it’s important to tell them what you think it is, too. Mommy instincts are real and all good pediatricians should be listening to mom’s gut, too.
You may likely be DEAD WRONG on your diagnosis, but a pediatric provider can learn a lot from listening to the parents, and it will help them make the RIGHT diagnosis!
Then, you get out your questions and TAKE NOTES! I know I’m not the only foggy-brained mom that forgets everything she hears the moment she gets home!
Top 10 Questions To Ask Your Pediatrician When You Have Concerns About Your Baby
1. What do you think it is?
2. Why do you think it’s ____?
3. What else could it be?
4. What should I do about it?
5. What other options are there?
6. What would you do if this was your baby?
7. What should I expect to see if I do this? (Whatever they are recommending.)
8. When should I expect to see changes?
9. What should I do if it doesn’t change/improve by then?
10. What red flags should I be looking for? (Warranting a trip to the ER)
But don’t forget to be a good listener! Wait for the doctor to finish speaking before you ask another question. Don’t interrupt! If your doctor is talking, it’s important and you should be listening! There’s a reason we have two ears and one mouth, right? 😉
If you still get dismissed or blown off after you asked your questions to the pediatrician, then you will likely go looking for second (or third) opinions, and that’s OK!
Just make sure you go to reputable sites like American Academy of Pediatrics (APA), NIH (National Institute of Health) , MayoClinic, etc. For preemie parents, Hand to Hold is a great place to go for more resources! Generally speaking, URLs that end in .gov, .edu., and .org have more scientific research-based information.
Read this article: “How to get the most out of your baby’s medical and therapy appointments”
Mommas! Advocate for your baby! Bring these top 10 questions to ask your pediatrician at the next appointment. Don’t get dismissed as a new mom again!
Now I want to hear from you dear mommas and papas! What would you like to add to this list that will help empower parents to advocate for their babies? Tell us in the comments below. And if you liked this article, please share! The more clicks and comments we get, the easier it will be for other parents to find and learn from it!
Hi! I’m Wendy Rohin, PT ♥
I am a pediatric physical therapist with over a decade of experience specializing in prematurity and infant development!
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